If your goal is to ruin your children, look no further! I have found the perfect ways to do so!
#1. Coddle and spoil them. Give them whatever they want whenever they want it! If they whine about something give it to them. It’s like you are rewarding them for whining! If they moan, groan and complain about chores just do it yourself. It’s easier that way. Definitely don’t discipline them and definitely don’t give them more chores. If one of your children is prone to manipulating you and making you feel guilty for not coddling them, be sure to give in and baby them. You will surely ruin them for life if you give into their every complaint and want! They will grow up thinking the world owes them something because mama always spoiled them and never disciplined them. Never mean what you say or say what you mean. Make it clear to your kids if they nag you enough that they will get what they want.
Forget about this verse: “Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.” Proverbs 23:13
And please strike these verses from your bible and never read them again: “It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:7-11
#2 Never tell them what to do. Many of us are already really good at this. We love to tell our children what to not to do: “Don’t talk to your brother that way!” “Don’t let your room get so messy!” “Stop being so selfish!” “Don’t procrastinate!” But we forget to tell them what to do! We are really good at telling them what to “put off” but terrible at telling them what to “put on”. Whenever you are training your children be sure to never finish that training by not explaining to them what they need to start doing. Don’t read these verses: “to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:22-24
#3 Think that you are in control of their hearts. This will lead to lots and lots of frustration on your part and it will come out in your parenting. Forget about the fact that the Lord is the One who is sovereign over your children’s lives. Pretend that you are! Get really, really mad when they aren’t meeting your expectations or responding exactly how you want! Better yet, let them see your frustration with this on a day to day basis so that they can grow in bitterness and not in faith. Parents who see the Lord as the one in control often have lots of faith and we don’t want our children to see us that way if we want to ruin them. Never think about these verses: “So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.” 1 Corinthians 3:7 Yep. Forget that God is the one that makes your children grow. Think that you are the one that does that day in and out. You will get exhausted and your children will get exasperated!
#4 Be prideful. Never admit you are wrong. Never apologize to your children. Never share your weaknesses with them. Be one person at church and a whole other person at home. This is bound to ruin them! Nothing ruins our children faster than pride and hypocrisy. Make sure if your children ever approach you about some inconsistency or sin in your life that you dismiss them immediately and tell them it’s not their place. Don’t ever let them confront you, even if they do it in humility and sincerety, because you are the parent after all! Who do they think they are?!
#5 Don’t teach them a biblical worldview. Saving the best for last. Don’t train your children spiritually. Expect their school or youth pastor or pastor to do that. Don’t sing songs of praise in your home. Don’t explain to them how to view the world through a biblical lens. That way, when they go off on their own, they will have no strong foundation on which to stand and they will fall over very quickly. The world is powerful with it’s pull and if our children aren’t ready for it they will willingly be swept away by it’s spell. Forget about the fact that the Lord has made you their parent to “train them up in the way they should go.” Get lost in facebook and your favorite tv show so that you “don’t have time” to teach them spiritual things. Ruining our children comes so much easier if we are lazy in their spiritual training. Don’t think about these words from our heavenly Father: “‘You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied…'” Deuteronomy 11:18-21
That’s it! That’s all you have to do to ruin your children! Not so hard is it?
(Some of you may be thinking: “Whoa Katie! What’s up with the sarcasm?! I thought you were a Christian!” My hope is the Lord will use my sarcasm so that you won’t forget this post. Most Christian mamas read hundreds…thousands of blog posts over their life. It’s hard to remember them…sarcasm helps 🙂
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