Oh man. I got this question from a dear sister in Christ yesterday: “Are there days you ever struggle?”
Can I just tell you something? This question made my stomach hurt and brought tears to my eyes. I had gone to bed early with a headache that wouldn’t give up and I was feeling overwhelmed because my husband is away with our two biggest kids. I forgot how hard it is to have 4 kids six and under! Seriously! Way harder than 6 kids 9 and under 🙂
The second thing I did was ask the Lord: “Father! Am I presenting a perfect life? Am I making others believe I ‘have it altogether’?”
Oh. I hope not. I certainly hope not. Lord help me to be genuine. To be the same on social media that I am at home. (A true danger for all of us.)
You see, no one posts those ugly moments do they? No mom jumps on facebook to post: “Oh hey guys! Just got finished yelling at my children and making them feel terrible about themselves. I am concerned that they are going to be permanently damaged from what a lame mother I am.”
But honestly, that is the type of post that would be honest. That’s the type that would make moms all over the world say: “I am not alone!”
And you know what? You aren’t alone! Moms everywhere are struggling EVERY day. Motherhood, like everything this side of heaven, is a struggle. It strips us of pride and selfishness perhaps more than marriage. It tests us and tempts us to let that real, raw, fleshly side come out way more than we want it to!
So what do we do?!
We once again turn our eyes and hearts back to our Savior and away from ourselves. We once again remind our children to do the same. We ask for forgiveness again. We seek godly counsel from wise women who love the Lord. We listen to godly podcasts and great audio books. We read the Word through out the day and listen to it online. We find biblical sermons on the subject.
We basically feed our spirit and starve our flesh as much as possible.
“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.” Romans 8:5
This is where the struggle begins and ends. Between our flesh and our spirit.
Jesus said in Matthew 26:41- “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
That’s it. Our spirit, who we are in Christ, is so willing and eager to be a good mama. But that flesh is so weak. That flesh takes over in moments of temptation and dominates and we fail once again.
Here’s the good news. God knew we were a failures before we did. He knew we would fail. He knew we could never be good enough on our own, not only in motherhood, but in life as a whole. That’s why Christ came. Don’t forget the gospel in your mothering mamas! Don’t forget that if you could be perfect then Christ had no reason to come.
“I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness were through the law, then Christ died for no purpose.” Galatians 2:21
You see, Christ died for a great purpose. He died because you could not be righteous in your own efforts. It is the grace of God that we need. It is the grace of God we need when we want to yell at our children in order to get them to obey or respect us. It is the grace of God we need when we want to throw in the towel because the house is a mess all the time. It is the grace of God we need when we want to quit and hide in our rooms.
It’s Him we need.
We all need Him.
“No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
These temptations you are facing in motherhood are common to mamas all over the globe. BUT GOD is faithful. He will show us those ways to escape our flesh and walk in the spirit.
Walk in the spirit today. Seek Him. Point your children away from you and toward Him. As always, set your hearts and minds on eternity.
And yes, I struggle. Every day.
“For this I toil, struggling with all his energy that he powerfully works within me.” Colossians 1:29